This is a man that, compared to most, has had a very fortunate life: so why like so many other apparently fortunate individuals is he in this position today?
When one has a sudden rise to fame or fortune it is a big adjustment for them to make: which albeit might be considered a wonderful and very lucky opportunity by those around the individual acts as a double edge sword. And for those going through the experience, it can often be traumatic (particularly if there is no recognition of the difficulties that go with it).
In this case, fame and fortune arrived hand-in-hand with many other issues.
Another big emotional and psychological upheaval hits when this all comes to an end and if one is still trying to deal with the repercussions of the initial change and remains unresolved in dealing with these matters, this second big alteration can throw the individual into further emotional and psychological unsettlement.
We all want to be liked and in most of us this is a relatively healthy desire which probably evolved from our innate need for social interaction and relationships.
However when someone is thrust into the limelight and is hailed as a hero by everyone, expectations inevitably accompany.
The demands a person places on themselves to remain loved by all can lead to a further inability to talk about any negativity.
With regards to the financial side of things, people do hold a false belief that money should be able to make one happy and if you have money and it doesn’t: well then you might feel there is something wrong with you, again leading to a failure to express your feelings or seek the necessary guidance (we have all seen how the public react to those who are lucky enough to find fame or fortune and then go ahead and publically moan about it).
In reality the negative effects are as potent as the positive (a study done in America of those that found sudden fortune via the lottery actually showed that these people were less happy than those that had been paralysed in an accident).
Many people in this situation will turn to drink, drugs, sex, spending or something similar as a way to disguise the underlying issues.
If you are in the public eye there is an added pressure on the psyche: how others will perceive you; and this in turn can lead to an inability to look inside yourself and ask how you are really feeling, what you really want and why.
Instead you begin to look to your external environment and the people around you for validation of your identity. Without the right tools available, the ability to be introspective and a solid support network of people that you can talk too.
Ultimately, one will begin to define themselves by what they own, who they are seen with and the like.
Of course, then when this is all taken away from them, not only do they have to readjust: but they also loose what they have seen as their identity.
Trudy Hill is a psychologist from Seventy Thirty, available to speak to journalists: (mob) 07725 432563.
Notes to Editors:
TRUDY HILL, MSc, BSc (HONS), Psychologist, NLP, Health and Success Coach
A much sought after coach, Trudy holds an Honours Degree in Psychology from University College London and an MSc from Birkbeck College London. In addition Trudy has a strong interest in personality theory and is a qualified Psychometric Tester (registered and approved by the British Psychological Society). Trudy has a specific interest in Personality Assessment and Profiling and has used Psychological Profiling for both selection and development purposes, with a range of professionals.
Additionally, Trudy is a certified Master Practitioner in NLP and has undergone extensive training in Hypnosis and Health and Success Coaching. She uses a blend of Neuro-Lingusitic Hypnotherapy, NLP and coaching with her clients. Trudy is constantly updating her own learning in the field of human development and applying her skills to a wide variety of human development projects.
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